We're unavailable, busy
lining up Tea Cups
It's kind of how it is. Our epidemic of unreadiness.
The first step to creating what we truly need - is becoming AVAILABLE for it. You just cannot argue this. Life flows where energy goes. No matter what is going on in your life, no matter the circumstances, the thousands of responsibilities or stages you are working through, for a anything to change - you must become
A V A I L A B L E for that change.
Much like it is in love. When you meet that guy, finally a real MAN! who is - OMG - so right! So so incredible - and yet, you find yourself sabotaging the love at every turn. You are simply just not available, oftentimes not even knowing this consciously. The relationship falls apart and you are left wondering what happened. In retrospect, the resonance could not be nurtured properly. There was too much energetic interference. You were not ready. Or he wasn't, but that piece you cannot control - all you can really contemplate is your own presence and availability.
Our containers are filled with unconsciously manifested circumstances. And the day we wake up to our geniune desires and higher callings, we find ourselves overwhelmed, too busy, so wishing we could - but...
Our chalices are filled with complex responsibilities anchored into our lives.
So, what are we all juggling that makes us so UNavailable for the real deal? Let's have a look.
1 | Fears
we are wired for fear, it's the reptilian brain still highly active in us, the amygdala firing - forgive us - most of human evolution, survival was the main concern
fears are countless to count here, and you may not even realize you are acting out of fear - one of the main ones I see time and time again is 'goal trauma' - the fear of failing, again
the real deal, that life you truly desire to create - is not easy to face, what if you fail? that would be detrimental - rubs against our essence - our mortality, doesn't it
fears are real - and they fill up a large part of our chalice
2 | Shadows
we are living with not only thousands of fears, but also - shames, guilts, remorses, mediocrities, vanities, unworths, exhaustions, expectations, oppressions, corruptions, limitations
our 'can't do/s' are countless
why are they filling up our so called intelligent lives?
most Sages agree that are merely catalysts for C H A N G E - you are supposed to get fed up with the discomfort of all of the above and move ON! To Evolve, To Awaken, it's what all the suffering is there for... it's that negative harvest design
the trouble is, our discomforts become comfortable
3 | Familiarities
we get comfortable with what we know and understand, and with what we invested our love and life towards, it's a natural inclination for safety and clarity - our investments must pay off at some point
we are wired for salience, for vigilance
anything new in our environment is first and foremost scanned for danger - what is familiar often feels safe, so we tend towards it, naturally
creating change takes C O U R A G E, and in our day and age we don't train the kind of courage that really changes us at the DNA level - true salience, true danger, that visceral kind is not something we experience on a daily basis - so we know comfort more than true breath arresting terror
we are creatures of the lush and it takes what in Japanese is called 'butsu/ikkan' a 'will to action', a visceral readiness to become available to the 'potentially uncertain', no matter how desired it is
4 | adornments
we cloak our lives with all kinds of significance, degrees, diplomas, certificates, professions and careers
as fantastic and self-empowering as these are, please look at WHEN you made decisions on these - most likely in early life when you did not truly know much deeply and your cosmic whispers were not even a real thing
most of humanity is living designed-lives based on cultural, societal and familial values, not on awakened decisions
the professional degrees you carry could have you all chained up in careers that may not be serving you right
changing directions, professions, careers is absolutely terrifying and close to impossible if you have bills, kids, investments, communities and families depending on you
but still, check-in! are you serving life at your deepest level, and what needs to change for that to happen - how to become available for - what feels like - an almost impossible shift
5 | servitudes
there is a real difference between service and servitude
when you are creating value and helping the world from a genuine non-agenda based place - for the sake of creating, following cosmic intel - that is service
when you are creating value and showing up for the world, only to fill a void inside you, to please, to succeed, to prove your worth - that is servitude
don't get me wrong, both do help the world and communities on many levels, life really needs your input on all levels, but service is a much more potent gift for the universe overall
we all feel a void inside of us, as we evolve, so most of us spend our lives in servitude, it's a given
just be aware of this subtle distinction
6 | the Mind
sweet mind, intellect, reason and reality thinking - we are juggling the tantrums of our mind most of our lives
the mind is meant to be of service to the soul, not the leader here
the ego needs constant reassurance that it is being heard, considered, honored and nourished - it's designed this way, to create that cosmic tension needed for Evolution - please know the ego is a mere catalyst, a safety valve
We are genuinely trying. I know we are. We know we are. It's all about the opening, the awakening, the fed-up moment and becoming available for what is genuinely meant.
Where there's no Danger
There's nothing to fear
you are 100% infinity, there is no danger
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